First of all… I know I am late. Honestly, I had to sit and
really think about what it was that needed to be addressed about this wedding special. But
I FINALLY got to watch The Mane Event with Gucci Mane & Keyshia Ka’Oir.
When I say watch I meant skim, slowly fast forward in other words, I just
skipped to the actual wedding. It lacked emotion, I would say an “well”
orchestrated fashion show… you had hosts and mini interviews with the star
studded guests. Nothing about it seemed genuine. And the walk down the aisle to
the beat of the music chile, the side eye I gave my TV… but that’s for another
post. It wasn’t the union that was upsetting, it was the reactions on social
media that took me for a loop.
Keyshia, if you
don’t know her, has been dating Gucci Mane (real name Radric Davis) for quite
some time. She’s been around for all 50 shades of Gucci: Heavy-set Gucci,
alleged infidelity Gucci, incarcerated Gucci, drug using Gucci Ice Cream tatt
Gucci and the list goes on. From the airing, Social media has been buzzing about
how Keyshia did it right. Now while I am
an advocate for sticking by your man my question is through all this, what’s
the fascination with waiting for a man to come to his senses when he has a
whole woman ready to settle down?
Let’s state the obvious… Gucci has a coin, career and status
so while being a ride or die in ANY situation is tiring, dealing with it when
money is involved is a gamble to some worth taking. And Ms. Ka’Oir isn’t just
some damsel in distress. She herself,
has several successful businesses that have been generating a coin for several
years. Word on the street is Gucci
invested into his woman by a few million. He made sure that even through all
his ain’t-shitness he wasn’t Netflix and chilling his way into a situationship
with his woman. They both knew what they had in each other and invested in the
wellbeing of them both.
Society in urban culture i.e. hip hop has for years, talked about how
women should be around while a man figures himself out. Lyrics
like “I need a ryde or die bitch that'll take this coke out of town, and
come back and breakdown when I'm broke” (Ryde or Die Bitch- The Lox) “If I got locked up and sentenced to a
quarter century could I count on you to be there to support me mentally?” (21
Questions 50 Cent) That's your fault, how many times you forgiven me? How was I
to know that you was plain sick of me? I know the way a nigga livin' was whack
but you don't get a nigga back like that! Shit, I'm a man with pride, you don't
do shit like that. You don't just pick up and leave and leave me sick like
that. You don't throw away what we had,
just like that I was just fuckin' them girls, I was gon' get right back.
(Jay-Z Song Cry). Women are supposed to sit around and wait on their men to
figure out life, find who they are, mess up a few times, take a bid in jail,
come home and cheat because they forgot what freedom feels like all the while
the woman should be ready at all times to prove their unwavering love and
devotion to a man who hasn’t made wise decisions through many stages of their
relationship. All the while having all her shit line up and in order. Are men
really out here thinking they are God-like and deserve unconditional love while
you take all the time you need to grow up without accountability? Maybe that's
where the refusal to take responsibility comes into play, because you feel your
mere existence should be praised.
Motivating someone
to want to do better is one thing, implying that is your “Ride or Die’s”
obligation and requirement for a serious commitment/ marriage is something
completely different. So yes, if I have to do all of that JUST to prove my love
to you I will be happy to leave after a “couple of fights” it’s shorter lines
for the next ride and I don’t have to choose between happiness or death.
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